You’ve heard it all before, change is good, change is inevitable. Yada yada yada. I’m not here to tell you anything new. I’m here to tell you that you’re going to make it through. Yea, change is constant, we know that, but we don’t always get the encouragement we need to allow ourselves to change. You are capable of positive change. You are capable of sitting still and letting it happen.
Grief does not change you, Hazel. It reveals you.
― John Green, The Fault in Our Stars
It’s not going to be easy but the best things in life never are. So think about what you want to come from these changes. Think about where you want to go. Think about how you’re going to impact others with your change. When you look at change with these questions in mind, you allow change to slough away the parts that you no longer need to survive. You reveal your true character and you are able to see your true weaknesses. Both are important to know in order to learn to adapt.
You’re always you, and that don’t change, and you’re always changing, and there’s nothing you can do about it.
― Neil Gaiman, The Graveyard Book
When I first started writing, I noticed some behaviors I was clinging to were no longer necessary but I thought they were who I was. I thought they were part of my personality. After some time and research, I realized they were coping mechanisms that I no longer needed. So, I allowed myself to let go of the negative behaviors. And I’m still me. I actually feel more me.
Take moments to acknowledge the positive impact change has made on your life. There is more than one side to everything, acknowledge them all. Take note of how it impacts your life in a negative way and find ways to accept what came out of it.